Tuning Into The Vitality Gap

Tuning Into The Vitality Gap

A Video Series on The Vitality Gap. Here’s where to tune into how it happens and how to start addressing it.

Across these episodes, you’ll see how the systems in your life are designed to extract, why the standard responses don’t reach the actual problem, and what it takes to bring your vitality into the equation alongside everything that depends on you.

Go through the straight-to-the-point episodes in order. By Episode 7, you’ll have a precise understanding of what’s happening, why it’s happening and what to do about it.


The systems in your life (like work, home and caregiving) take more than they return. This episode names extraction, shows where it is and isn’t happening, and introduces your vitality reserves: the specific ingredients of the life you actually want to lead.


 Your roles operate like parallel galaxies. Each one has its own demands and none of them knows the others exist. You’re the only one absorbing the aggregate. This episode talks about how getting better at juggling doesn’t close The Vitality Gap.


 Ambition, competence and discipline built your life. They’re also widening The Vitality Gap. This episode uses Allison Daminger’s research on cognitive labor and the data on non-promotable tasks to show how the traits that make you indispensable are leaving you unprotected.


Stress is pervasive. Burnout is real. Self-care is non-negotiable. You need to understand more than this to close The Vitality Gap. This episode shows why, includes the June morning story that changed everything and redefines what self-care can and cannot do.


This episode introduces the extraction-to-expansion spectrum and the question that tracks your vitality: this is expansion or extraction? You’ll understand The Expansion Point, which is when you stop accepting the idea that your life can’t accommodate you.


When the extractive systems ease up, The Vitality Gap doesn’t close on its own. This episode covers three scenarios women face when life changes: rebuilding extraction in a new form, standing in open space without a map, and outgrowing what used to work.


Fun closes The Vitality Gap. The research is unambiguous. This episode covers the physiology of fun, how to move from numbing to flow, and why fun and fulfillment are strategic necessities built from your vitality reserves. This is where The Fun Reset begins.


Now that you understand the fundamentals of The Vitality Gap, it’s time to get serious about addressing it in your life.

The free Masterclass “The Vitality Gap: What do to When Your Life Takes More Than it Gives Back” is available now.